I Am Learning to Release You

I am learning to release you.
To define myself without
    to pull other things in
    to forgive myself in spite of
and be whole.

I am learning I never needed you,
however painful it is to admit.
I wanted to.
I believed it for a time.

Because what was I doing those ten long years
if not learning to love myself?

I was learning to love you.
A work I do not regret,
    but that leaves me hollow
    to think how it was not returned in kind.